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8 Ways HR Can Overcome Pushback During the Return to the Office (

8 Ways HR Can Overcome Pushback During the Return to the Office ( 

A growing number of employers are bringing employees back onsite full time. While some workers welcome the return, others are more ambivalent about the prospect. In a recent McKinsey study, 29 percent of respondents said they would consider looking for a new job if their employers insisted they work onsite full time. This attitude challenges employers to find ways to bring employees back without triggering mass resignations or damaging morale.

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Focusing on Employee Mental Health Is Essential Post Pandemic

Focusing on Employee Mental Health Is Essential Post Pandemic.  

Pandemic concerns might be waning somewhat in the United States, but ongoing distress has underscored the importance of keeping mental health in check. And in this critical moment, many footwear firms have put a priority on supporting the overall wellness of their employees.

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Board Member Dr. Marilyn Puder-York on Resiliency During COVID-19

Stamford Symphony is delighted to welcome its newest Board member, Dr. Marilyn Puder-York.  

She has written a short article on Personal Resiliency that we are pleased to share on the Channel.

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Prevent yourself from becoming a workaholic

Your job is important (obviously!), but it shouldn’t consume your whole life.

You pride yourself on being a hard worker and getting results at your job. But there’s a fine line between that and becoming a workaholic who lets a job take total control over your life.

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The world's richest couple is divorcing. That doesn't mean there will be drama


The world's richest couple is divorcing. That doesn't mean there will be drama

(CNN)When high-profile CEOs with mega wealth get divorced, many assume it will be a contentious, drawn-out drama.

But it doesn't have to be.

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Depression in the C-suite


Depression in the C-suite

The recent suicides of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade are a sad reminder that success is no guarantee of happiness.

Those at the top of their industries are no more protected than the rest of us from depressive symptoms or full-blown clinical depression.

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Being CEO can kill a marriage. Here's how to prevent that


The power. The pay. The perks.

It's good to be CEO. But it can be hard on a marriage.

Few marriages are easy, of course. But the pressures on couples when one spouse runs a company can create new problems in a relationship or exacerbate old ones.

The No. 1 reason why CEO marriages fail is lack of time for family, said attorney Laurence Hirsch, who represents clients in high-net-worth divorces at Jaburg Wilk in Arizona.

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The 3 Types of Work Rooms Every Office Should Have


There are different stages of the work process, and those stages require different types of external environments for focus, says Marilyn Puder-York, psychologist and executive coach.

That’s why the variety of work rooms – quiet rooms, open areas, rooms to collaborate, and low-level noise rooms – is a vital component to any office that seeks to create a productive culture and foster employee well-being.

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7 Things To Gut-Check Before Confronting A Coworker


Perhaps some of the best career advice was given by rapper Ice Cube back in 1992/93 when he grabbed the mic and said, “Check yourself before your wreck yourself.”

While Ice Cube’s second hit single from his third solo album was talking about confrontations in a different setting, the message — as explained by — remains the same: you should take a step back and examine your emotions before making a rash decision. At work, it’s imperative that you not let your emotions or the heat of the moment get the better of you, whether in a conversation with a coworker and especially when dealing with a superior.

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The Fraud Who Isn't

Psychology Today

While personality and intelligence may be the seeds of impostorism, it needs a certain type of environment in which to sprout (or, shall we say, fester). Marilyn Puder-York, a clinical psychologist and executive coach, frequently treats high-achieving clients with aspects of IP and sees a common element in their background: parents who placed outsize emphasis on their academic credentials. “They were afraid of not being good enough, of being abandoned in some way by a family who wanted a successful child,” she says. “Their ambition was driven by a desire to avoid shame.”

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How to Remain Productive with Change

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Change is constant.

And change is good, says Marilyn Puder-York, PhD, a psychologist, executive coach, and author of The Office Survival Guide. “In different stages in life, productivity may be defined differently because life gets more complicated, tasks get more strategic in addition to being tactical, roles change, we have more to do, more people to take care of, and things become more complicated,” Puder-York says.

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How to Transition From Work to Life


You’re an executive or an individual with a demanding job. You don’t have enough time for your personal life. You have way too many e-mails to read, and you think about work when you go home at night.

As an individual with this type of position, how can you possibly free your mind from work, when work never really goes away in today’s technology-driven society? This is an issue, right? The question is: do you want more leisure time?

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I've Got Spirit, Yes I Do!


Getting ahead doesn't mean shouting your accomplishments through a bullhorn at the next meeting, but it also doesn't mean waiting out the game on the bench. You just have to know the right way to cheer for the home team.

According to Marilyn Puder-York, PhD, a psychologist/executive coach and author of "The Office Survival Guide," (McGraw-Hill, 2005), when it comes to tooting your own horn, there are three things you need to consider: What's your particular office culture? What personality does your boss have? And was the success just yours or did it belong to a group?

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7 Tips to Actually Succeed at Your Digital Detox

Life by Daily Burn

Stop Blaming Your Job

There are some people with high-risk jobs who have to check email at all hours. (Hi, Barack Obama.) But there are many others who don’t need to — and do so anyway. “That’s unhealthy because there’s not a reason for your nervous system to be wired to ‘workaholic,’” says Marilyn Puder-York, Ph.D., a psychologist and executive coach for CEOs and executives in New York City. If you’re responding to emails at 10 p.m. because you decide to, not because your job dictates, take a step back. Tell yourself you can check your inbox — but that you’re not going to respond unless it’s something really important.

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6 Tips For Better Work-Life Balance


A lot of overachievers develop perfectionist tendencies at a young age when demands on their time are limited to school, hobbies and maybe an after-school job. It’s easier to maintain that perfectionist habit as a kid, but as you grow up, life gets more complicated. As you climb the ladder at work and as your family grows, your responsibilities mushroom. Perfectionism becomes out of reach, and if that habit is left unchecked, it can become destructive, says executive coach Marilyn Puder-York, PhD, who wrote The Office Survival Guide.

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AOL Boss Blew it in Public Firing

Special to CNN
By Marilyn Puder-York

On Friday, AOL chief Tim Armstrong apparently fired AOL Creative Director Abel Lenz during a conference call with some 1,000 employees listening.

The CEO was explaining changes at Patch that would reduce the number of sites in its local news network from 900 to 600. During the call, according to a number of sources, Armstrong told Lenz

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6 Tips for Dealing With a Passive Boss

U.S. News and World Report

When you're forced to manage the manager. Your boss's behavior has left you trying to figure out how to best approach him or her on a regular basis. "It puts responsibilities on the employee to best manage that particular boss with that particular personality," says Marilyn Puder-York, a licensed psychologist and author of "The Office Survival Guide."

Take personality into consideration. Before raising the issue with your boss, account for his or her personality. A passive boss isn't necessarily a sensitive one. However, he or she may combine both traits. Whatever the combination, tailor your approach accordingly. "You have to act on a strategy that's going to match who this guy or gal is … and then figure out a script," Puder-York says.

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After an Office Gaffe, Several Ways to Say You're Sorry

The Wall Street Journal.

The apology needs to be direct and the offender should take full responsibility, says Marilyn Puder-York, Ph.D., a psychologist and executive coach.

It should convey: “I recognize what I did was inappropriate, I recognize it had impact I didn’t intend, no one is blaming the universe or a bad night’s sleep,” she says.

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Astronauts like Kelly train to put feelings aside

Phys Org

Most people compartmentalize all the time on a smaller scale. But some people are naturally better at putting aside their feelings than others, or they learn how to be better at it.

"They are ultimately super-rational and super-logical," said psychologist and executive coach Marilyn Puder-York, of Old Greenwich, Conn. "They access their emotions, but they don't let their emotions control their cognition or their behavior or their choices."

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How To Deal With Office Politics

Whether it’s a cocktail party or a beer-pong tournament, go. If there’s a group of colleagues traveling to hear a speaker across town, join them. Get other people invested in your career—both inside and outside your office.  “Think of your contacts and political alliances as a bank account,” says Marilyn Puder-York, author of The Office Survival Guide. “Make contributions to it regularly.”

When you come across a nugget of information that’s genuinely useful to a political ally—a colleague, a networking contact, even a superior—use it to build your alliance: “Normally, I don’t share this kind of stuff, but I thought it might help you.” That said, keep a couple of rules in mind. First, don’t initiate negative gossip or pass it along. Second, be wary of relationships built on too much gossip. “Remember,” says Puder-York. “That person who’s gossiping with  you will probably gossip about you too.”


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